Your marriage is in trouble. You loved this person, you built a life together and it’s in jeopardy.
What do you do? You have seen friends and family get divorced, maybe even lived through your parents' divorce. It was rough. Money, time, happiness was lost. The attorneys didn’t seem to help the situation. It took years to repair the damage.
I know that Courts are not designed to build healthy, strong divorced families. They are there to divide property and keep kids safe. That’s great, but it's not enough. Attorneys are advocates for their individual clients in an adversarial system. But, there should be no winners and losers in divorce. Struggling Families need to be on the same team and they need a good Coach. Someone to familiarize them with the rules of the game, create a team playbook, build up their strength and confidence and get them to win as a team.
So, after 20 years as an Attorney, I left the law and became a Relationship Coach and created the Root to Rise Program. I help couples take control of their own lives, save money and avoid a bad divorce. The Program is designed to help you avoid extra legal fees, time in therapy (you or your kids) repairing the effects of a bad divorce, and a lifetime of fighting.
As your divorce coach, I don't give you advice. Rather, I help you gain the knowledge and confidence you need to make good decisions and turn one household into two thriving homes.
This is how the program works:
Step One: Assessment. Figure out how you got here: individually and as a couple. What were you taught about conflict, marriage, and money? What resolution skills do you have to get you through the next phase of your life? How do you know if you are making a good decision?
Step Two: Strengthen. Once we identify the gaps in your knowledge and skills, we will fill them in by using innovative life coaching techniques. You will learn about healthy confrontation, effective negotiation tools, how to repair injuries, and how to set boundaries and expectations for the future.
Step Three: Learn. With more mental strength and agility, you will be ready to learn about the divorce process. We’ll review the different types of reconciliation and marriage options. We’ll get the answers to specific questions like…
Is this the right time to divorce or should we just separate?
Is reconciliation an option?
How much will this divorce cost?
Should we mediate or litigate?
How do I hire an attorney?
How do we protect our kids?
Who do I trust?
Step Four: Engage. Now you are ready to get on the playing field. The rules are clear. You know your strengths and weaknesses. You and your spouse are on the same team. So together, with the help of your coach, you will:
- Identify the issues that will be a part of your divorce;
- Hire attorneys or mediators;
- Create a parenting plan that includes a plan for telling your children;
- Establish a budget and timeline for the divorce;
- Create budget options for moving forward; and
- Collect all the documentation you will need to get started with your attorneys/mediator.
At the end of the program, you will be ready to walk into a courtroom with clarity and confidence or avoid the court altogether. After all, the more decisions you make as a team, the less you have to rely on expensive attorneys. Enroll in the Root to Rise Divorce Preparation Program and make sure that everything is rigged in your divorced family’s favor.
Have questions? Send an email to [email protected] to schedule a free call.